Unspoken rules of dating
“If you are actively pursuing someone, you better come up with something better than ‘hey’ or you will lose their interest,” he cautions.But don’t underestimate the guy’s ability to play hard to get: “However, if I know someone is interested in me, and maybe I’m playing hard to get, just saying ‘hey’ after a lull in conversation can let them know that I’m still interested, but still give me the control.” We have a consensus here – everyone answered no.When you’re texting someone that you like and they are hard to get, it’s nauseating, exciting, and thrilling, waiting for someone to respond – the fact that it’s new and unknown is exciting.The anticipation and re-reading of texts can drive you mad but it’s that pain and agony that makes it so much better when they respond.” According to Braden, 20, “more than once a day is too often,” while Cameron, 23, says texting “just to say hey” is “always fine.” Nate, 30, agrees that the text conversation should be “open-ended to keep the conversation flowing.” Ben, 27, wants a more creative conversation starter.miss you/ something reminded them of me) and compliments.
“I’m not one for games,” he says, “and the older I get, the less and less I play them.If I’m not interested, it’s not a turn-off, but it does become annoying if they continually text you first when you don’t show interest.” No surprises here – Weekday texts are more conversational, and are meant to serve as distractions while at work. Weekend texts tend to get more flirtatious, and the senders are more likely to have a drink in the other hand (you don’t say).Ben, 27, cautions the tipsy texters: “Once you start drinking, you start texting less with your brain and more with your emotions, which can lead to a disaster the drunker that you get.” When asked the difference between a “weekday” text and a “weekend” text, Nate, 30, says that there isn’t one – “unless it is after midnight and the bars are closing.” I feel compelled here to remind everyone of the Jersey Shore wisdom of “Nothing good happens after A. David, 20, dislikes communicating through texts “because of the inability to convey emotions properly through words.” Nate, 30, would also opt out: “I am more of a phone caller, [it] shows more intimacy.” Unfortunately, the fear that the guy’s inbox is full of conversations with other girls may be a valid concern.But I do think it is important to not come off as desperate or clingy when first meeting someone, because you don’t want to spook them.” When can you expect a non-strategized text from him? ” Ben: I think that depends on the girl; for example, I loved getting “hey there stranger” from my first serious girlfriend who I took to prom.“After 2 – 3 dates, I usually stop worrying about the time or frequency of my texts as strategic, because I feel that I have a read on them and whether or not we like each other.” I’ll let the guys speak for themselves here. The words didn’t necessarily mean anything, but between us it was an inside joke or something we always said to each other.