10 1 07 married dating just say hi
This week a straight woman asks, “Why do guys get back in touch with old flames? But in my limited experience, guys — and girls — never get in touch with former lovers “just to say hi.” For instance, I recently accepted a Facebook friend request from an ex. As such, I’ve only ever been the get-in-touchee not the, um, -toucher.Before the trip, I had been surprisingly anxious about meeting Liam’s stylish best friend, Miriam.
But bisexuality didn’t feel like an identity that was available to me as a newlywed in a heterosexual marriage.In my early twenties, I married the best of the boys, an attractive engineer with a dry wit who made me laugh until I cried and saved all the receipts from our first year of dating.My feelings for women never went anywhere, but I got better and better at explaining them away. I went to college and graduate school, and I made lots of openly LGBTQ friends.The wall posts went back and forth amicably enough… Namely, getting married and moving out of the country. So, innocent intentions on my part — but she was on the prowl, right?Gay Single Guy (Jay Dyckman): I find that most guys get in touch with old flames when they are at “rock bottom” moments in life and need to convince themselves that (a) at one point someone had feelings for them, (b) that unlike the stinging rebuke of a recent ex they are actually capable of affection or (c) they are truly horny and have no other options on the menu. The only reason you should ever get back in touch with an old flame is the “you might have contracted an STD” call or the “I’d like my T-shirt back please – it’s my favorite.” That’s it.